How I Learnt Confidence
Tip – For ‘sustainable’ confidence – get help & keep flexing those confidence muscles long-term!
Can you learn to be confident?
In a word? YES.
You can learn confidence. I’ve done it. And I’m still learning!
For years, I was technically brilliant at my job as a senior producer at the BBC and former head of programmes for Rapture TV. I knew what I was doing. I was confident at my competence, and I was capable. (My pal Pam Jones calls this ‘capable girl syndrome’! I had it.)
You may know ….I had to interview Hollywood stars (like George Clooney, Madonna, and the last 3 Prime ministers). I nurtured on-air talent (difficult characters). I was the one behind the camera shouting
“Yes, yes, go on – go for it, you’re doing brilliantly!” (even famous people need help with confidence, you know!)
However, I lacked confidence when it came to being visibly brilliant at my job and stepping into the spotlight myself.
Sound familiar?
When I left the BBC to set up my business, I realised that many leaders (particularly women) held themselves back, like me.
They suffered from the same perfectionism trap I did, and often wouldn’t put themselves forward for roles unless they felt they were 100% perfect.
That’s when I decided to start my inner journey of curing my fear of not being perfect.
For me, public speaking was the confidence issue that unpicked me the most. I had glossophobia (Fear of public speaking). And I knew I had to do something about it. So…
I jumped off the precipice! I took the plunge and faced my fear.
Look, I even wrote a book about it, “Goodbye Glossophobia”….(and won an award – yay!).
I wanted to share my tips with people who felt petrified like me.
Do you want to know the trick to building confidence at public speaking?
Here’s what I’ve learnt…
- Focus on one step at a time – baby steps. One tiny step each day is better than a giant leap!
- Daily reminders to cut out the voice of doubt and keep going (even if you’re not perfect)
- Good habits – easy to achieve practical things like going for a walk rather than getting stressed.
- Mini ventures outside my comfort zone – a constant flow of small speaking ‘gigs’ – changed my life. Speaking up becomes ‘normal’ rather than an ordeal after a while.
- Get help (I’ve invested in coaches and cheer leaders to support me along the way)
That’s why I set up the 80% perfect club, so you can start getting your very own confidence booster jabs too.
Many of my clients or the talent in their teams don’t have access to a one-to-one exec coach. However, they still need a small amount of guidance and support.
The club is a fun and affordable confidence coaching program – it could be just what your team needs right now, post covid in the era of hybrid working.
The 80% Perfect club is designed to continue the confidence boost you feel after my masterclasses.
It’s to keep you buoyed up (as in buoy, not boy, the floating device that keeps you above the water!)
It’s low maintenance – you don’t have to DO anything if you don’t want to.
There are Monday missions – only if you choose to accept them – with mini optional challenges, like speak up early in all your meetings this week, or smile and pause every time before you speak this week.
My ambition is to give you little nudges and doses of encouragement – like little confidence booster jabs.
I call it the drip dip fizz method.
I used to be afraid to ‘put myself out there’
It is extraordinary to think that I am no longer scared of standing up in front of 1000s of people and speaking
I no longer feel fear in the same way.
I am not afraid anymore.
I’m not perfect.
I’ve decided to strive for 80% perfectionism.
And I’d like to help you & your team to boost your confidence in yourself and your career.
There are 100s of tips, tricks, and techniques that I cannot wait to share with you when you join the 80% Perfect Club.
Imagine not being afraid anymore.
Imagine taking the blockers away.
When you strive for 80% perfection…
The sky’s the limit.
How to be Confident? Join the club!
It’s a fun and affordable confidence coaching program if you don’t have access to a one-to-one coach.
Join the Club Here!
If you want to treat your team to multiple club memberships – please drop me a line – you’ll also get a discount plus many bulk benefits!
Bonus
You get loads of freebies worth more than £100, including my award-winning audiobook and access to
How to Get Your Dream Promotion if you join the club today…check it out here!